Category Archives: Luke

Cake Baking and Strawberry Picking!


Now that is quite a combination isn’t it?

I have always wanted to go strawberry picking, ever since I moved to the UK in 1998, but for one reason or another never went.  Well last weekend (26th June) we decided to take Luke.  Oh it was great fun!  Just being outside in the fresh air, picking glorious, scrumptious strawberries, what could be better?

 Can you believe he never pinched any before paying!

  Supervising Daddy!

  Onto the raspberries now!

  Thirsty work all this fruit picking!

As you can see, we had great weather and a great setting which made it, naturally a great time!

Earlier that day, I decided to back some cupcakes, as one usually does on a Sunday! LOL!  Luke needed to help Mummy and whilst he is good at cracking an egg, I think the only real reason he helps is so he can lick the bowl!  Here is my proof!









 I think you see my point!








A lovely weekend with my son, certainly treasured times!


Birthdays!!!!!!! (picture heavy!)


Seems like an age since it was Luke and mine’s birthday, but of course it has only been a few weeks!

As you surely know by now my son was born the day before my birthday and whilst everyone keeps saying how wonderful it is, in reality, it is pretty crap!  Bad planning on our part that is for sure!  But hey I can’t really change it now can I!

So another year and again my birthday is overshadowed by Luke’s and I have to be honest and say I feel really resentful about it!

Luke’s birthday fell on a  Thursday this year and so he was packed off to Nursery as usual and then we had swimming in the afternoon.  Of course the difference was he got a present in the morning, and then had 3 birthday cakes throughout the day!

 There were presents to start with!

  The first present of the day, the large gift was to be given at his birthday party!

     2 of the 3 cakes, I forgot to take a picture of the small Buzz Lightyear cake!  These were used at Nursery!

 Birthday dinner, his favourite, spaghetti and meatballs.  Yes he can use his fork, but birthday treat he was allowed to use his hands!

  Getting ready to blow out the candle!

  The big blow!

Between Luke’s birthday and his party, was of course my birthday!  My day did not start too well!  I decided to travel to Peterborough to spend the day with my family, but the traffic on the A14 was just a nightmare and it took me a little over 3hrs to get there!  But I have to say it was worth the wait!  Why?  Because look what was waiting for me……………………………………

 A wonderfully large cupcake cake!  Isn’t it lovely?

I did get my Kindle, which I am thrilled about, and my family got me my lighted Kindle cover, an FM transmitter for my iTouch and I had bought myself a skin for my Kindle.

  Front of my new cover from DecaGirl

  Back of cover

  Lighted Amazon Kindle cover

  All set up!  Love it!

I did have a good day, and some lovely gifts from dear friends as well!  The only thing I never got was a dinner out!  Oh well, maybe next year!

So that was Friday sorted, onto Saturday and Luke’s birthday party!

My brother traveled back with me on Friday night to help me on Saturday as Si had to Luke to Little Kickers and I wanted to get the food collected, decorations up, table sorted all by the time he got back and my parents arrived!  As with all my planning it went to perfection!  LOL!

  Inspecting the big present, what could it be…………………..

  First time on his new bike!  Can’t believe he looks confident already!

  Out riding his new bike and loving it!

He got so many lovely presents from everyone and had a wonderful day!  I love seeing my little boy not only grow up but so happy and loved by all!

Here are pictures of his ‘official’ birthday cake!

  The one and only Lightening McQueen from Disney Cars!

    I really have set a tradition now, because each year Luke gets an awesome cake, for his first birthday he had Noah’s Ark, last year was a Fire Engine, and believe it or not I am already starting to think of next years cake, because I can’t let traditions die!

So our birthday’s are over for another year, and my darling little boy is now 3 and as adorable as ever.  I just hope that one day, my birthday will have signifance again, but till then I am getting used to sharing it with one of the most significant people in my life!

Belated Happy 3rd Birthday Luke!

Breast or Bottle – A Mother’s Rant!


I awoke this morning to news on the BBC saying that bottle fed babies are more likely to have behavourial problems than breast fed babies and well it PISSED ME OFF!

Let me start at the beginning!  When I was pregnant all I heard was BREAST IS BEST and you have to BREASTFEED YOUR CHILD, and whilst on paper that sounds wonderful in reality it doesn’t always work out that way!

I had an emergency C-section when my son was born at 2303hrs on a Monday night.  I had been in hospital since 4am that morning labouring, so by the time I had him, I was exhausted!  I was told straight away to try and breast feed him and NO NURSE helped me.  I was left to try and work out how to get this little person to latch on!!!!!!!  As he wouldn’t the nurse gave me a bottle of formula and said to give him that and we would try again in the morning.

I got put back on my ward at about 1 or 2 in the morning, at around 4am my son woke needing a feed.  I was so groggy and exhausted, the NURSE actually gave me a bottle to give him, with not hint or mention or trying to breastfeed!

Whilst I was in hospital (which I might add was just 36hrs!!!  which seems nuts when I had just had major surgery, so they kept telling me!) I asked numerous times for help on getting my son to latch on, without any success!

So I went home with a bottle fed baby and a Mid Wife and Health Visitor that said we can try again at home!

I have to say the thought of breastfeeding a child, actually repulses me.  I have images of being a cow just producing milk all the time, I hate it.  But I tried, and I even bought express pumps, both manual and electric (which just enhanced the cow image more!) to try and get breast milk into my son, because that is what the health profession says!

He did get some, but nothing I would get excited about!  I had to stop trying to express within a week of coming home, due to other complications and so my son after 1 week was totally formula fed.

When I compare my feeding patterns to those of breastfed friends, I don’t understand why mother’s actually do breastfeed for so long!  Luke was sleeping through within 6 weeks, he was going possibly 3 – 4hrs between feeds (in the beginning) and he developed perfectly.  Now my friends, demand fed, in some instances every 1 – 2hrs through the night even and were shattered all the time.  I can’t get my head round this, fine breastfeed during the day, but at night why not give the child a bottle just to get a few hours of decent sleep.  I know breastfed babies don’t go as long between feeds, but then all the more reason for a bottle at night.  If you choose to solely breastfeed then don’t complain about the lack of sleep!  There are other options!

Now to the study and the rant!

1. If the health professionals want mother’s to breast feed why not give mother’s the help and guidance they need in order to do it, and if they can’t (because some mother’s can’t) don’t make the mother feel worthless and like she is depriving her child and she is a failure and her child will have all these issues as they grow up.  Embrace her achievement of becoming a mother, who the hell cares where the milk comes from to feed the child!

2. The other thing I find odd is all this talk about how much more sickly bottlefed babies are.  Well I have friends who have breastfed and there children are MORE ill than my son, so that blows that theory straight out the water!

3.  I was also told by not breastfeeding I am missing out the bonding process!  BOLLOCKS!!!!  My son was held the same way as any breast fed baby, he was cuddled and burped the same way!  The only difference, he never had some huge nipple shoved in his face, and could actually breath, look around and enjoy his milk!  Oh and can I just add when all these breast feeding mothers are bonding with there child, how is the father bonding?  My husband bottle fed Luke as well, and so we BOTH had the wonderful time of bonding with our son and not only that but sharing the feeding times!

This really is a rant and I am sorry but I am sick to death of these damn studies, making mother’s who don’t breastfeed for whatever reason feel that they have failed their child.  As long as the child is healthy, happy, nurtured and loved, who the hell gives a damn where it’s milk came from?

(this is a personal account, and just how I see it!  If you don’t agree, please don’t leave comments telling me off, it is just my opinion and I have need and right to express it!)

Another baby?


Well I bet that title has got a few people’s tongues wagging!  LOL!

But a friend of mine, who’s blog I read all the time, did a very interesting post over the weekend about having children.  You can find it here if you wish to read it :-

This post really rang true with me and I decided, I would write my own post, as it is something that has really bugged me since having Luke.

It is true, the questions start, when you get the boyfriend!

1. When is the engagement – tick, done!

2. When is the wedding – tick, done!

3. When are the patter of tiny feet arriving – tick, done!

4. When is the second patter of tiny feet arriving – Uh, NEVER!

Yes I am one of those few women who is very content with having just ONE child, and why society can’t accept that I will never know.  I don’t judge those mothers who wish to have 2, 3, 4……..14 children, so why judge me?  In which book of life does it say Women shall never have anything less than 1 child?

There is nothing wrong with my reproductive organs, I can produce offspring just fine, thank you, I just choose to limit them!

I have noticed, since having Luke that some of the people I know who have gone on to have 2nd children, almost outcast me now, liking having 2 is a cult and makes being a mother a job, where as having 1 is a easy and being a  mother is simple!

Being a mother is a hard job whether you have 1 or more children!

I am asked on a very regular basis, I will say almost weekly, when Luke will be having a sibling and when I answer NEVER, the look of horror that descends on some people’s faces is just a picture.

Then the following happens………………….  I get told, ‘Oh, he will be lonely, without a sibling!’  I’m sorry, but if you believe that siblings make a child complete, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your family dynamics!  My son has 2 loving parents, who are married and living under the same roof – that in itself seems a bit novel these days! – he goes to a wonderful nursery, where he has numerous friends!  Coupled with the extended family he has, he certainly isn’t lonely, so that theory is blown out the water!

Next comes ‘Oh you don’t want to leave it too late to have another, you are getting older!’  Yes that is true, which is precisely why I had Luke at the ripe age of 34!  So I couldn’t plan any more, due to my age!

Now I say this, to mothers, fathers, and generally people everywhere.  It is a couples choice as to the number of children they have, not societies, and if they want only ONE child, so be it, respect it, accept it, and wish them well.  Having ONE child does not make them any less of parents, if anything I think they are more savvy.  Having children costs ALOT of money and some people have the sense to see that and have ONE child because that is what they can afford without compromising their standard of living, their childs needs and future education, and their own relationship.

Maybe I have this view, because I come from a society that when you had a baby it was your responsibility, not the Governments, there are no hand outs and you paid for that child.  In Britain, of course depending on income, the more children you have the more Govt funding you get, but I shan’t go down that route.

So the next time you see a Mother with 1 child, celebrate her decisions, her childs life and that fact she is a MOTHER, don’t judge her and criticize her because she ONLY had 1!

Rant over!!!!!!!

My son is almost 3…….


how did that happen?

In just 10 days time my darling son will be turning 3.  I can’t believe he is growing up so fast!  It is the same old cliche that everyone says, but it is so true!  I struggle to even remember what he was like as a baby, and I see the pictures round the house and think is that really my son!

A quick run down of how he has grown :-

  The day or rather night he was born!  May 19th 2008!

 I love this picture of my brother cradling Luke.  I look at Luke now and can’t believe he actually fitted in his arms like that!

 Opening his birthday presents on his first birthday!  Laughing at Mummy, because of course I obviously made silly faces again!

 His first real injury on his eye lid of all places!

  Mummy and Luke at his 1st birthday party!  I love this picture!

  Luke and Mummy at his 2nd birthday party, just not as good as the one above!

  Explorer Luke at Africa Alive off to chase the ducks!

I can’t believe how he has grown!

We are currently at the potty training stage!   Which I think if I was more focused on we would cracked already, however I think I am the one holding him back.  So on Saturday, I decided after having been in town all morning, that the afternoon would be spent in big boy pants and we shall see what happens.  Well he was excellent.  Only 2 accidents and he took himself off to the potty sometimes as well.  So a few more days and I am sure we will crack it!

We also took him to watch Speedway for the first time over the Bank Holidays, not a good idea.  He was not interested in it at all, so we shall be giving that a miss for a while!

We have been having such good weather the last month that we have done a few outings, which have been great fun!

 Mummy and Luke enjoying Aldeburgh Beach (more like pebbles!)

  Enjoying his pork kebab at the Police Dog Trials!

  Enjoying the ride at the local Easter Egg Hunt.

We also took him to Africa Alive near Lowestoft, that he absolutely loved.  I love that attraction purely because it is African themed, so I was in my element and I am so glad that Luke had a wonderful day as well!  Here we are on the little train!

I am one very proud Mummy, I have an adorable little boy and whilst yes he can push buttons, like I am sure all children can, I would not change anything!

He is the best thing I have ever done in my life, and makes me so proud each and every day!

Almost end of Jan!


Can’t quite believe that the end of January is next week!  2011 seems to be going as fast as 2010, if not quicker!

2011 seems to have started well.  Things are busy with work and personal life and I am enjoying both.

After the busyness of Christmas and festive season it was so nice to get back into a routine.  Luke is back at nursery 4 mornings a week, with his swimming taking place on a Friday and Little Kickers on a Saturday.  The child has a busier diary than me!

He is growing so much now, and talks, and talks and talks, and if I haven’t mentioned it talks!  But he is at such a wonderful age and I am really enjoying watching him grow and develop!

His current obsession is Disney Cars followed by Toy Story! So when in Toys R Us the other day, guess what I found?

Yes it is a Lightning McQueen car for kiddies!  How cool!  Needless to say it is still in the shop, but oh boy how I wanted to buy it! LOL!

Luke is already planning his birthday party, which I have to say is in May, but he has already told me he wants a Cars cake and decorations and toys!  How can he demand, he is only 2 and a half! LOL!

January also see us book a holiday!  How exciting we are off to Disneyland Paris in the near future, and can’t wait.  To see Luke’s face with all the Disney characters is just going to be priceless!  Talking holidays my family are booked to go on a wonderful trip to the States and I am so jealous.  They are going to have an awesome time!  Best of all they may be getting me my custom made Rickshaw Bag whilst in San Francisco, how cool is that!

So far my resolutions are being stuck to.  I am saving my pennies and am trying to read more!

I will be doing an updated post on my Filofax usage when I get a minute.

In the meantime here are some pictures of my January so far :

Luke spent a day with Grandma and came home with this mass of cupcakes, which he proudly told us for the next few days he made for us!

Luke enjoying the space in Mummy’s office!

Luke playing with play dough after a day at nursery!

Exhausted after a day at nursery.  Like the slippers?

One other big thing we did in Jan was Operation Room change!  What you may ask?  Well we moved Luke into my old office, Simon into Luke’s old room for his office and then the downstairs office became all mine!  Happy or what?!?!?!?  Took a whole day but so totally worth it!

January has been good and I just hope and pray that the rest of the year continues the same way!




As you know England has been gripped by awful weather this last week and Suffolk was no exception!  Whilst it never stopped us doing anything, ok, not entirely true it stopped Luke and I from doing swimming on Friday, only because the drive to get to the house is very steep and I figured with the current weather if I did get down without sliding into the stream, I certainly wouldn’t be getting out!

So Luke and I stayed home on Friday and had an at home day!  Bliss!  I decided to try Luke out on his sledge, but taking him on my own, I couldn’t get many pictures and the ones I did get he wouldn’t smile!  This is the best he would do!

No smiling at the camera!

What a difference a day makes and having Daddy!

I think someone enjoys sledging!  What a difference a year makes!  We tried him last year and he was not keen at all and wouldn’t even sit in it!

I just love seeing the joy on his face!

So we woke today, Sunday, and the snow had melted which is a pity but it does mean life can get back to normal, till the next lot!

At least I know that if it does snow again, Luke will be happy sliding down a hill for a few hours!